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Making a Splash

by dimsumdebutante on May 17, 2013

Growing up in Tennessee, it was no big deal to play in the rain. I lived on a cul de sac with a big drainage ditch (aka roaring rapids after a storm) running behind my house. I have some fabulous memories of getting messy and muddy with my brother and our neighbors. When we dripped our way back indoors we could just strip down in the laundry room and leave our wet shoes on the porch.

Right now I’m raising my girls in Queens. In an apartment. Things are a bit different.

Stomping in puddles requires choosing the appropriate gear. Packing up the stroller. Taking the elevator to get downstairs and walking a couple of blocks to the park. When we get home, wet items are either dumped in our tiny foyer or tossed in the bathtub. Laundry is done once or twice a week, so damp and dirty items are quite a nuisance. This said, we don’t do it often enough.

This is one reason I treasure our weeks spent at my parents’ home down south. The Nut digs in the yard. She adopted a found turtle this week. We can walk out the front door barefoot or eat a snack on the deck.

And when it rains, we can leap unabashedly. IMG_9979 IMG_9988 IMG_9996

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Our Garden Leave…

by dimsumdebutante on December 6, 2011

Over the past few weeks there have been some major changes in the DSD home. B decided to accept a job offer. Upon resignation, his firm granted him a “Garden Leave” before he can begin the new position. This translates to 90 days of paid time off. Unbelievable.

Because things like this don’t happen in ordinary life, we have decided to go crazy and celebrate. It has been almost one week since his last day at the office. This weekend we will begin our adventures.

We are making stops in Florida, Tennessee, New Orleans (without the kid!), San Diego, LA, San Francisco, and Oahu.

While I am mildly anxious about multiple flights (8 in total), an endless number of sleeping scenarios, several changes in time zone, and packing for a variety of climates, I am focused on taking lots of deep breaths and soaking in this once in a lifetime opportunity.

Stay tuned for updates!

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My Holiday Comforts

by dimsumdebutante on November 28, 2011

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I recently wrote about the lack of holiday traditions in my family and my desire to establish new ones by the handful. While I try to dig myself out of that hole, I can concentrate on the little things I do count on to comfort me and to boost my holiday spirit.

Here are a few of the things that make this time of the year special for me:

The smell of a woodburning fire. I haven’t lived in a place with a functional fireplace in as long as I can remember, but them drifting smoke from someone else’s chimney always makes me think of coziness and falling leaves and quality time indoors. Just a sniff can take me on a mental holiday to a snowy day and a good book, cuddled in front of a blazing fire.

Hot chocolate. I’m not a cocoa snob. Good ole Swiss Miss will do the trick in my book. The importance lies in the feel of a warm mug in my hands and the chill-kicking sensation of that sweet liquid filling my tummy.

Love Actually. In my opinion, this is the greatest holiday movie of all time. I’ve watched it at least once per year since its release in 2003. It is hilarious, it is touching. It will make you forgive Hugh Grant for anything he’s ever done. It’s one thing my entire family can agree on. On the off chance you haven’t seen it, do yourself a favor and get on it.

Toy catalogs. Now that I am a mom, I’m actually delighted by the piles of sales pitches that arrive in our mailbox. While our space is small and we can’t possibly indulge in every super tempting new creation, flipping through them with my daughter reminds me of the giddiness I felt as a child gazing upon similar pages.

Hark the Herald Angels Sing. I didn’t spend much time in church growing up, but if anything makes me feel religious it is this song. Pretty much any version makes my spine tingle and serves as a reminder of the true meaning of Christmas.

Uggs. They are ugly. We all know this. But I love them. I rejoice the day that they come out of summer storage and grace my feet. Their emergence really signals the beginning of the holiday season to me, far more than the Christmas music in stores and the red Starbucks cups that are marching ever closer to Labor Day each year. You will see me wear little else on days from November through March. That cozy sheepskin treats my toes like dear friends and makes my every step a toasty treat.

Christmas ornaments. I have never set up a tree in my own apartment, but I have made it back to my parents’ Tennessee house for all but three of my 32 Christmases. The tree there has fluctuated from real to artificial and one infamous and crazy year was even replaced by a house plant. However, some of the ornaments have been around my entire life. There’s the Baby’s First Christmas ball with my little name on it. There is the nativity ornament made by my younger brother in nursery school. Jesus, Mary, and Joseph are made out of peanuts. Some years I am there to help unpack the ornaments, other times I arrive home to a decorated tree. Either way, so many of those little trinkets make magic in my heart with their very existence.

The Nut's First Christmas- 2009

What are your greatest holiday comforts?

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Timeless threads

by dimsumdebutante on November 13, 2011

I’ve learned as I’ve grown up that we don’t really notice ourselves aging. Sometimes things happen to remind us that we aren’t 16 or 25 or 30 anymore, but generally I believe most of us picture ourselves frozen at a certain point in our lives. On occasion a gray hair or a throbbing knee or a conversation with a younger person will shatter this image, but I kind of like thinking I exist in my bubble of mid-twenties deliciousness. I kid, I kid. Sorta.

I’ve also noticed that the items in our midst can sometimes bear this ageless protection as well. That sweater you bought and loved in 2001 may still look just as good to you today while your spouse is cursing it all the way to Goodwill. Your white leather soccer shoes (that have never known the feel of a soccer ball or probably even a blade of grass, my beloved husband) are no longer cool, but you can’t see that.

Recently I’ve gained awareness of a certain something I’ve been holding onto that I had had rarely given any thought. We’ve been together since I went away to college in 1997.

A pair of Thorlos running socks. I don’t even run, but they’ve been my favorites for as long as I can remember. I’m pretty sure they actually belonged to my mom originally. She doesn’t run either.
I’ve taken them for granted for a long time. Recently an outspoken and beloved New York pal noticed when I was wearing them and said, “Woah! Those things take me back!” This was the moment it clicked and I realized we really have been through a lot together and I have never doubted the age or the reliability of my dear friends.

I’m not a person who really acquires stuff. I’ve moved alot and I’ve purged alot. Somehow these socks have moved around this country with me. In the years that I’ve been on my own I’ve had seven different addresses in Tennessee, seven in California, and now two in New York. I would say I have worn these socks on average once a week or at least once per laundry cycle. Can you imagine the stories they can tell? The shoes that have nestled them, the carpets they have treaded, the dryers that have tumbled them, and the drawers they have been tucked back into?

Like me, the years have taken a bit of a toll on my socks. I hadn’t really noticed before my friend pointed it out.

They are dropping in places that used to be taut. Bumps and snarls have appeared on seams that used to be smooth as silk. Where as I have gained some padding in new places, my socks have worn down a bit.

But I know something about us both. We have a lot of miles yet to cover. We’re showing a touch of wear and tear, but the glory days are still ahead. Who knows where we have yet to venture?

Thanks for the support, Thorlos, and plan on sticking around. I’d love to send you to college with The Nut someday.

What ageless belongings are you hanging on to?

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My troubles don’t have to be hers. Amen.

November 10, 2011

When I was a young kid I suffered from pretty severe separation anxiety, particularly from my mom. It mostly manifested around sleep. I struggled to sleep alone at home and I had a lot of trouble sleeping away from home. I feared slumber parties and overnights away from my parents. By the time I hit [...]

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Little packages hold the biggest surprises

November 8, 2011

A few months ago my cousin and his fiance asked The Nut to be the flower girl in their November wedding in Tennessee. B and I contemplated the travel along with The Nut’s ability to comply with any wedding-appropriate behaviors. After being reassured by the bride and groom that they fully understood that she is [...]

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Yup, she’s mine.

June 9, 2011

B and I have have a lot of friends in white/Asian marriages. This means we know many of babies of white/Asian heritage. Before I had The Nut I heard plenty of stories from white moms about being questioned regarding the origins of their partially Asian offspring. “Is she yours??” “Is he adopted??” Some moms answer politely, while others [...]

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For the love of Lucy

June 5, 2011

When you’re down south, anything goes. That includes skinny dipping in the hot cold tub in the backyard with your best friend. Since nudity, open water, and furry animals all make the Asian half of The Nut’s family a little nutty nervous, we go all out here in the backwoods!

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Flyin’ south…

May 30, 2011

In a few days The Nut and I will head out on our second annual summer trip to Tennessee. I hope this is a tradition that will continue throughout her childhood, maybe even without me at some point. Sniff. This year we will chase fireflies and fill up her kiddie pool in Gigi and Baba’s [...]

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Sleeping Beauty… a fairy tale, indeed

April 7, 2011

We all talk about it. We all want to know what’s going on in everyone else’s bed, and in this case the braggers aren’t screaming and moaning and rattling headboards. For some of us it’s been a given. For others an endless struggle. Good sleep. Every parent’s dream. {Perhaps this is the reason we take [...]

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